Paternity Fraud - National Survey in the U.K.
Scotland's National Newspaper
96% of women are liars, honest
The Scotsman ( Scotland's National Newspaper), EDWARD BLACK, December 9th, 2004
NINETEEN out of 20 women admit lying to their partners or husbands, a survey on attitudes to truth and
relationships has found.
Eighty-three per cent owned up to telling "big, life-changing lies", with 13 per cent saying they did so
Half said that if they became pregnant by another man but wanted to stay with their
partner, they would lie about the babyís real father.
Forty-two per cent would lie about contraception in order to get pregnant, no matter the wishes of their
And an alarming 31 per cent said they would not tell a future partner if they had a sexual disease: this
rises to 65 per cent among single women.
In the poll of 5,000 women for Thatís Life! magazine, 45 per cent said they told "little white lies" most
days. The favourite untruth was "of course you donít look fat", with "these shoes were only £10" in second
Jo Checkley, the editor of Thatís Life! , said that while many women now lied to avoid hurting their
partnerís feelings, covering up the truth about a baby could have far more damaging consequences.
She said: "Modern women just canít stop lying, but they do it to stop hurting other peopleís feelings. It
could be argued that these little white lies simply make the world go round a little more smoothly. But to
tell a man a baby is his when itís not, or to deliberately get pregnant when your partner doesnít want a
baby, is playing Russian roulette with other peopleís lives."
The National Scruples and Lies Survey 2004 found plenty of untruths were told over the Christmas period. A
total of 78 per cent said they would pass off a second-hand gift as a brand new present, while half have
lied about a Christmas card being "lost in the post".
Women will also lie to save peopleís feelings, with only 27 per cent saying they would tell a man if he was
hopeless in bed (although a third would tell their friends all about it).
Just over half would flatter a man if he asked them about his looks and only 46 per cent would give the
"brutal truth". However, 61 per cent of women would want their partners to be "brutally honest" if they
asked them "do I look fat?" or "do you think my best friendís attractive?"
Elsewhere, 54 per cent admitted stealing sweets or chocolates; 23 per cent would "sneak a bottle or two"
home if they were invited to a party by a well-off friend; 49 per cent would "kiss and tell" to the media
for £25,000 if they had a one-night stand with a celebrity; and 38 per cent say they would marry purely for
Nearly half said they had faked orgasms and 55 per cent admitted claiming they were tired, had a headache,
or felt ill to "get out of lovemaking".
Nineteen per cent of women with a long-term partner said they had cheated on him, while 30 per cent of all
women have had an affair with a married man. Sixty-eight per cent said they did not trust their partner.
As far as trustworthy personalities are concerned, the woman with "the most honest face" was Fern Britton,
the This Morning host. She was followed by the singer Kerry Katona (formerly McFadden), Sharon Osbourne of
The X Factor and the Queen.
The "most honest male face" jointly went to Ant and Dec, the presenters of Iím A Celebrity ... Get Me Out Of
Here!, with Prince William second.
The results come in the wake of the controversy surrounding David Blunkett, the Home Secretary, and his
former lover, the publisher Kimberly Quinn. They had a child, but she kept details of the affair secret from
her husband Stephen, even taking her son to Corfu for a weekís holiday to bond with him this year.
Mr Quinn accepted his wifeís story, but she had covered up the fact she was accompanied by Mr Blunkett.
ē The survey questioned 5,000 women, average age 38, across Scotland, England, Wales and Northern Ireland.
Top ten porkies
Thatís Life! magazine has carried out its National Scruples and Lies Survey 2004 to find out the top ten
lies told by women. They are:
1. "Of course you donít look fat!"
2. "These shoes were only £10."
3. "The bus/train was late."
4. "Iíve got a headache."
5. "Iíve only had one drink."
6. "That dress looks good on you."
7. "The chequeís in the post."
8. "You look ten years younger."
9. "Youíre wonderful in bed."
10. "I love you."